Interpersonal conflicts and relational stress are the most common types of stress we face. However, because it is common does not mean that we are doomed to a life of interpersonal struggle. Setting a plan and taking action to resolve conflict is a skill that you will learn through acting on this Deed. As you think about the source of stress and who to approach about it, remember these keys:
- Understand your position very well and how you want to express it. Often times we don't fully understand what it is we want when communicating and, as a result, we aren't able to communicate it effectively. Feelings are powerful but often their cause is elusive so it will be worth your time to consider how you feel and why you feel that way before approaching the other person.
- Empathize with the other person. Very rarely will you find another person who is truly out to harm you. More often, conflict arises when they are acting in what they think is their best interest and you are doing the same. If the other person is going through a very stressful situation or if you can predict how they might react to your side of the story, take a minute to step into their world and consider their point of view.
- Resolve to create a positive outcome. In every relationship you will have to decide which is more important- getting your way or having a good relationship. If you determine the relationship is more important, then compromise will surely be in your future. If your way is more important then be prepared to be alone.